None

In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents' emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you'll learn how to create positive new relationships so you can build a better life. Read more

A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field.Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experiences or in chemical imbalances in our brains - but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited: that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn't Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood. As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over 20 years. It Didn't Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn't Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that, in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch. PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. Read more

A groundbreaking approach for practicing courageous love and resilient intimacy—from the creator of Internal Family Systems therapyDo loving relationships end because couples lack communication skills, struggle to empathize, and fail to accommodate each other’s needs? That’s a common belief within and outside of the therapeutic world… but what if it’s all wrong? In You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, Dr. Richard Schwartz, the celebrated founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, offers a new way—a path toward courageous love that replaces the striving, dependent, and disconnected approach to solving relationship challenges.The breakthrough realization of IFS is that our psyche contains multiple parts, each with a life of its own. Most problems in relationships arise because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for our disowned and unloved parts. In this book, you’ll discover essential insights and tools to foster healthy dialogue with your parts and your partner, including: How to recognize and disarm the cultural assumptions that create shame, guilt, and isolation in relationships The Three Projects—why we fool ourselves into thinking we must change our partner, change ourselves, or give up on true intimacy Finding and Healing Exiles—transforming the way our most vulnerable parts influence the way we treat each other How to reorient relationship conflicts to help each of us grow toward the Self—the center of our clarity and wisdom Courageous Love—building resilient intimacy with each other and our parts to create healthy, lasting partnerships“No one can do the work of healing our orphaned parts for us,” says Dr. Schwartz. “Yet when we begin with Self-leadership, a relationship can become a safe place in which we help each other heal and grow.” Here is an invaluable guide for therapists and laypersons alike to promote connection, trust, and understanding—within yourself and with the one you love. Read more

Acclaimed author and renowned psychiatrist Irvin D. Yalom distills thirty-five years of psychotherapy wisdom into one brilliant volume.The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom’s more than thirty-five years in clinical practice, The Gift of Therapy is a remarkable and essential guidebook that illustrates through real case studies how patients and therapists alike can get the most out of therapy. The bestselling author of Love’s Executioner shares his uniquely fresh approach and the valuable insights he has gained—presented as eighty-five personal and provocative “tips for beginner therapists,” including:•Let the patient matter to you •Acknowledge your errors •Create a new therapy for each patient •Do home visits•(Almost) never make decisions for the patient•Freud was not always wrongA book aimed at enriching the therapeutic process for a new generation of patients and counselors, Yalom’s Gift of Therapy is an entertaining, informative, and insightful read for anyone with an interest in the subject. Read more

Iconic couples' therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a groundbreaking and provocative look at infidelity, arguing for a more nuanced and less judgmental conversation about our transgressions. An affair: It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so, too, the prohibition against it - in fact it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo, universally forbidden yet universally practiced? For the past 10 years, master therapist Esther Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have been shattered by infidelity. In The State of Affairs she asks, why do we cheat? And why do happy people cheat? Why does infidelity hurt so much? And when we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Is an affair always the end of a marriage? Affairs, she writes, have a lot to teach us about relationships. They provide unusual insight into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Betrayal hurts, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage - with the same person. With the right approach, Perel argues, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel writes, "Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart." After listening to Esther read The State of Affairs, continue on as she opens the door to her office and invites you to listen in on actual couple sessions. These are unscripted conversations of real, anonymous couples grappling with infidelity from her Audible Original podcast Where Should We Begin Begin? (courtesy of Audible Originals, LLC). As you enter this raw, intimate space with Esther, we hope you find the vocabulary for the conversations you may wish to have. Read more

Updated to commemorate its 20th anniversary, this classic resource further explores the effects of grief and sheds new light on how to begin to take effective actions to complete the grieving process and work towards recovery and happiness.Incomplete recovery from grief can have a lifelong negative effect on the capacity for happiness. Drawing from their own histories as well as from others', the authors illustrate how it is possible to recover from grief and regain energy and spontaneity. Based on a proven program, The Grief Recovery Handbook offers grievers the specific actions needed to move beyond loss. New material in this edition includes guidance for dealing with:·  Loss of faith·  Loss of career and financial issues·  Loss of health·  Growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional homeThe Grief Recovery Handbook is a groundbreaking, classic handbook that everyone should have in their library. “This book is required for all my classes. The more I use this book, the more I believe that unresolved grief is the major underlying issue in most people’s lives. It is the only work of its kind that I know of that outlines the problem and provides the solution.”—Bernard McGrane, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, Chapman University Read more

Build stronger relationships with strategies grounded in attachment theory Attachment theory explores the different ways we develop connections with others. If you're searching for a way to create stronger, healthier, and more authentic relationships with the people you love, The Attachment Theory Workbook can help. It's your guide to understanding your own attachment style and exploring actionable exercises to improve honesty, intimacy, and communication with your partner, family, or close friends. This workbook offers: The basics of attachment theory—Find a comprehensive overview of the Anxious, Avoidant, and Secure attachment styles, with self-assessments that help you understand which ones apply to you.Active strategies for healing—Develop your relationship skills with exercises like listing what you love about someone, and answering questions about how hypothetical scenarios make you feel.For yourself and others—This expert advice helps you explore your own attachment style as well as identify the attachment style of others, so you can better understand their perspective. Lay the foundation for strong and lasting relationships with The Attachment Theory Workbook. Read more

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life.Discover the four types of difficult parents:The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxietyThe driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyoneThe passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsettingThe rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory  Read more

A self-guided workbook to lead yourself through the IFS process and create inner harmony and peace, as endorsed by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz, founder of Internal Family SystemsTransform the way you relate to yourself and your mental health struggles with this clear and structured guide to Internal Family Systems (IFS), an evidence-based approach to parts work therapy. The IFS model views every person as having an “internal family” of parts or subpersonalities, each with their own set of thoughts, feelings, and roles. Some parts hold pain from the past, while others work to prevent that pain from surfacing. When parts are understood and accepted, they can release this pain and heal.Developed by a veteran IFS clinician who has lived, practiced, and trained others on the IFS model for more than 25 years, The Self-Led Internal Family Systems Workbook can help you connect to your true, authentic Self—which is always inside of you, ready to lead—so you can meet your internal family of parts, respond compassionately when they’re activated, and send them healing energy when they need it.Key features of this workbook:Accessible Self-Paced Process. Move through the IFS practice at your own speed and comfort level using IFS skills that have been adapted for beginners.Clear and Structured Approach. Bring clarity and insight to your internal world by navigating it with step-by-step skills, exercises, and worksheets.Strategies for Common IFS Challenges. Learn to work with parts that keep you stuck in problematic cycles and offer compassion to deeply wounded parts. Transcripts of Self-Led IFS Sessions. See how an IFS clinician works with her own parts to address challenges like perfectionism, impulse control, and more.“I am very grateful to my friend Tanis Allen for creating this clear, practical workbook for helping people access Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy on their own. Because she knows IFS so well, she not only offers very useful and easily followed exercises but also the important cautions and guidelines to make this powerful work safe. I enthusiastically endorse this book and see it as an important contribution to the big project of helping everyone change their inner relationships and become more Self-led.”—Richard C. Schwartz, PhD, founder of the Internal Family Systems model of psychotherapy Read more

A groundbreaking approach for practicing courageous love and resilient intimacy―from the creator of Internal Family Systems therapyDo loving relationships end because couples lack communication skills, struggle to empathize, and fail to accommodate each other’s needs? That’s a common belief within and outside of the therapeutic world… but what if it’s all wrong? In You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, Dr. Richard Schwartz, the celebrated founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, offers a new way―a path toward courageous love that replaces the striving, dependent, and disconnected approach to solving relationship challenges.The breakthrough realization of IFS is that our psyche contains multiple parts, each with a life of its own. Most problems in relationships arise because we unknowingly burden our partner with the task of caring for our disowned and unloved parts. In this book, you’ll discover essential insights and tools to foster healthy dialogue with your parts and your partner, including:• How to recognize and disarm the cultural assumptions that create shame, guilt, and isolation in relationships• The Three Projects―why we fool ourselves into thinking we must change our partner, change ourselves, or give up on true intimacy• Finding and Healing Exiles―transforming the way our most vulnerable parts influence the way we treat each other• How to reorient relationship conflicts to help each of us grow toward the Self―the center of our clarity and wisdom• Courageous Love―building resilient intimacy with each other and our parts to create healthy, lasting partnerships“No one can do the work of healing our orphaned parts for us,” says Dr. Schwartz. “Yet when we begin with Self-leadership, a relationship can become a safe place in which we help each other heal and grow.” Here is an invaluable guide for therapists and laypersons alike to promote connection, trust, and understanding―within yourself and with the one you love. Read more

With more questions and answers than any other edition, the Encyclopedia of Counseling, Fourth Edition,is stillthe only book you need to pass the NCE, CPCE, and other counseling exams. Every chapter has new and updated material and is still written in Dr. Rosenthal's lively, user-friendly style counselors know and love. The book’s new and improved coverage incorporates a range of vital topics, including social media, group work in career counseling, private practice and nonprofit work, addictions, neurocounseling, research trends, the DSM-5, the new ACA and NBCC codes of ethics, and much, much more. Read more

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. Read more

Proven Skills for Navigating the Real Challenges of Intimate RelationshipsWhat does it take for couples to sustain love? How can you deepen your relationship even when you and your partner disagree, fight, or let each other down? “Intimacy isn’t something you have. It’s something you do”, teaches Terry Real. “It’s a minute-by-minute practice of connecting to others through empathy, vulnerability, and accountability.” With Fierce Intimacy, this renowned author offers a revolutionary way of living in connection - one that allows you to cherish your partner, yourself, and your relationship in equal measure. How to Communicate with Love and Respect - Even When You ArgueTerry’s approach to relationship is called “full-respect living” - to skillfully and honestly assert your needs while also honoring your partner’s needs. In these six sessions, he presents invaluable training for individuals and couples on developing the skills necessary for this authentic way of connecting. You’ll begin by learning how to clear away the outdated beliefs and habits that keep you from developing healthy self-esteem. Then Terry will help you and your partner transform the Five Losing Strategies that sabotage relationships into the Five Winning Strategies that lead to clear communication, trust, and mutual support. “When we dare to be more vulnerable and open and honest, we are forging new territory”, says Terry Real. Whether you’re still seeking a partner or want to breathe new life into your existing relationship, Fierce Intimacy brings you essential tools for connecting with true respect, uncompromising honesty, and ever-deepening love. HighlightsThe adaptive child - how to recognize and defuse self-sabotaging habitsUnhealthy self-esteem traps for men and women Identifying your CNI (Core Negative Image) - a key to making arguments constructive instead of destructiveThe Feedback Wheel - a four-step approach to revolutionize your communication The Five Losing Strategies: our impulses to control, retaliate, and be right all the time The Five Winning Strategies for shared happiness, connection, and success Read more

Traumatic experiences leave a “living legacy” of effects that often persist for years and decades after the events are over. Historically, it has always been assumed that re-telling the story of what happened would resolve these effects. However, survivors report a different experience: Telling and re-telling the story of what happened to them often reactivates their trauma responses, overwhelming them rather than resolving the trauma. To transform traumatic experiences, survivors need to understand their symptoms and reactions as normal responses to abnormal events. They need ways to work with the symptoms that intrude on their daily activities, preventing a life beyond trauma. Dr. Janina Fisher, international expert on trauma, has spent over 40 years working with survivors, helping them to navigate their journey. In Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma, she shows how the legacy of symptoms helped them survive and offers: Step-by-step strategies that can be used on their own or in collaboration with a therapist Simple diagrams that make sense of the confusing feelings and physical reactions survivors experienceWorksheets to practice the skills that bring relief and ultimately rejuvenation Read more

Mira Kirshenbaum (I Love You, But I Don't Trust You), an international bestselling author and world-renowned therapist, draws on years of counseling experience to lead readers through relationship ambivalence. A careful line of 36 questions and self-analysis techniques designed to get to the heart of relationship and marriage problems. This straightforward and practical advice is designed for newer and older relationships, and presents a plethora of information and experience in a clear, concise manner. Read more

A highly accessible introduction to a therapeutic approach that brings our inner “parts” into harmony and allows our core Self to lead We’re all familiar with self-talk, self-doubt, self-judgment―yet most of us still view ourselves as if we have one uniform mind. Dr. Richard Schwartz’s breakthrough was recognizing that we each contain an “internal family” of distinct parts―and that treating these parts with curiosity, respect, and empathy vastly expands our capacity to heal.  Over the past two decades, Internal Family Systems (IFS) has transformed the practice of psychotherapy. With Introduction to Internal Family Systems, the creator of IFS presents the ideal layperson’s guide for understanding this empowering, effective, and non-pathologizing approach to self-discovery and healing. Here, Dr. Schwartz shares evidence, case studies, and self-care tools to help you: • Shift from the limiting “mono-mind” paradigm into an appreciation of your marvelous, multidimensional nature• Unburden your wounded parts from extreme beliefs, emotions, and addictions• Demystify the most commonly misunderstood parts―the Exiles, Managers, and Firefighters• Transform your most challenging parts from inner obstacles to invaluable allies• Embrace the existence of innate human goodness―in yourself and others• Connect with the true Self that is greater than the sum of your parts “The most wonderful discovery I have made is that as you do this work, you release, or liberate, what I call your Self or your True Self―the calm, compassionate essence of who you are,” says Dr. Schwartz. “When the Self becomes the leading intelligence in our lives, we create more harmony―both within ourselves and in our external lives.” For therapists, their clients, and anyone interested in understanding and healing themselves, here is an essential guide to a revolutionary approach to self-realization, mental wellness, and transformation. Read more

Transform Your Relationship Fears into Confidence and Security with the Anxious Attachment Workbook Tailored for those ready to rewrite their love stories, this guide is your beacon toward anxious attachment recovery. It combines profound insights with practical, actionable strategies.Discover Your Path to Secure AttachmentUncover the Roots of Your Anxious Attachment Style: Through guided self-reflection exercises, turn insights into action for profound self-awareness, laying the groundwork for transformative change.Master Communication Strategies: Foster openness and understanding, ensuring your needs are met while respecting your partner's, paving the way for deeper connection and trust.Cultivate Self-Love: Boost your self-esteem with techniques designed to make you more resilient in relationship challenges, transforming self-doubt into self-assurance.Build Trusting, Healthy Relationships: Apply the principles of secure attachment to transform fear into freedom and fulfillment, setting the stage for lasting love and happiness.Benefits for YouDeepen Your Self-Knowledge: Engage with thought-provoking prompts and exercises that unveil the depth of your emotional patterns, equipping you with the clarity to navigate your inner world.Enhance Emotional Intimacy: Learn to effectively express your needs and desires, creating a bond with your partner based on mutual respect and understanding.Foster Independence and Togetherness: Balance your need for independence with the desire for closeness, achieving a relationship dynamic that thrives on personal growth and collective happiness.Prevent Future Heartache: Equip yourself with the tools to recognize red flags and toxic patterns, shielding your heart from future pain and disappointment. Your journey towards a secure attachment begins now. Embrace the opportunity to transform your relationship fears into a source of strength and confidence. With the Anxious Attachment Workbook, you're not just learning to navigate the complexities of love and life but setting the foundation for lasting happiness and fulfillment. Take the first step towards a more confident and secure you—grab your copy today! Read more

Therapist Approved! Psychoeducational flip charts are a unique and reusable in-session therapy tool that bring clinical concepts to life.Buy it once, use it hundreds of times!Help your clients make sense of their most puzzling and shameful trauma symptoms with the innovative use of simple diagrams and explanations found in The Living Legacy of Trauma Flip Chart.Traumatized individuals often have trouble processing words and information, but visual images draw their attention, allow them to better understand their symptoms or struggles, and help them to engage more easily in treatment. Created by Janina Fisher, PhD, this flip chart makes psychoeducation a relational experience in which the client can feel understood and supported. It presents scientific information in an accessible, easy-to-understand manner that builds trust, even in the early stages of therapy, and allows trauma survivors to feel more empowered rather than victimized by their symptoms. Your clients will thank you for using it!Intended for interactive use in sessions, this simple, user-friendly format includes:21 full-color diagrams on client-facing pagesExplanations and key points on each corresponding therapist-facing page, making the concepts easy to teachWhiteboard client pages for easy markup and reuseTopics covered include:Common symptoms of traumaThe triune brainHow trauma memories are remembered or forgottenEffects of trauma on the brain and bodyNervous system dysregulationWindow of toleranceTraumatic attachmentAddictions and traumaDissociative phenomenaStages of treatment Read more

Step-by-step exercises to guide yourself through the IFS process and create inner harmony and peaceTransform the way you relate to yourself and your mental health struggles with this clear and structured guide to Internal Family Systems (IFS), an evidence-based approach to parts work therapy. The IFS model views every person as having an “internal family” of parts or sub-personalities, each with their own set of thoughts, feelings, and needs. These parts hold pain such as trauma and can create difficulties like anxiety or addictions, but when understood and accepted, they can release this pain and heal. Developed by a veteran IFS clinician who has lived, practiced, and trained others on the IFS model for over 25 years, The Self-Led Internal Family Systems Workbook can help you connect to your true, authentic Self—which is always inside of you, ready to lead—so you can meet your internal family of parts, respond compassionately when they act out, and send them healing energy when they need it. Key features of this workbook:    Accessible Self-Paced Program. Move through the IFS process at your own speed and comfort level using IFS skills that have been adapted for beginners. Clear and Methodical Approach. Bring clarity and structure to your internal world by navigating it with step-by-step skills, exercises, and worksheets. Strategies for Common IFS Challenges. Learn to work with parts that keep you stuck in problematic cycles and avoid triggering deeply wounded parts. Transcripts of Self-Led IFS Sessions. See how an IFS clinician works with her own parts to address challenges like perfectionism, impulse control, and more.  Read more